The Day Part of Me Died

I know I shared what I could remember about February 11 last week, but I realized that a few hours after I delievered Jonah and was sitting in the hospital room I actually wrote some in a journal. Sorry if it repeats a little, but this is what I wrote. I remember not being able to sleep well that night.

Names we had chosen for you: Ezra, Jonah, David
Date of your birth and death: 2-11-13
Place: Newman Regional Hospital, Emporia, KS
You were inside me for 20 weeks, 1 day.
You will always be remembered.
Love,
Your Mommy and Daddy. <3

Yesterday we were perfectly happy, thinking about names and this summer of taking care of a baby. This Friday we were supposed to have our ultrasound and find out your gender as you kept growing inside me. We can't believe today you appeared to us too early only to go straight to heaven. In a way I'm glad you didn't experience the hardships of this life but wished we could have had the chance to share with you God's grace and love and forgiveness.
This morning I woke up to some cramps and when I went to the bathroom I was bleeding a lot of bright red blood. It just kept coming so I knew something was wrong. I told Andrew when I realized I wouldn't be able to go to school that day and may need to go to the hospital. We called Amber and she said we should go and get an ultrasound. We got to the ER and got moved around till we were in labor and delievery. My nurse and doctor were very kind and helpful. After a doppler and ultrasound, Dr. told us we were losing the baby. Heartbeat was in the 50s. After a few hours of sitting on a bed, contractions were starting to hurt. Another ultrasound showed a heartbeat only every once in a while. I delievered you naturally and you were so sweet and tiny. So warm at first. We kept thinking and praying you would open your eyes or move, even though we knew you were gone and too young to survive. You were born at 12:14 and we had the opportunity to hold you almost all afternoon. Pictures were taken as many friends and family visited and prayed with us. I'm still so in shock and am starting to feel grief. All I know is God must have a better plan for you and us.

It seems like every Sunday morning at church I am brought to tears, partly because Sunday the 10th was the last day I was pregnant, partly because so many friends and family who go to that church helped us immensly, and partly because the songs remind me that God is faithful, God is peace, God is love.
Here are some poems that came to me during church last Sunday and today (I hate to share these because I am horrible at poetry...haha):

Why did you leave?
The sorrow is too great
My body is shaking
Aching for you
God hold me close
Hold us both in your arms
But my arms are empty
My womb small and hollow
Take care of my baby
No more sadness and no tears

Giver of life
Take away this death
My heart is broken
Pick up the pieces

I give you my pain
I give you my sadness
I give you my sore eyes
I give you my emptiness
I give you my hurt
I give you my loneliness
I give you my anguish
I give you my craziness
I give you my anger
I give you my brokenness
I give you my sorrow
I give you my heaviness
I give you my life

Jonah, my son
Peace of my life
Fly up to heaven
Be with Jesus

Take me back to Sunday
When you were growing strong
Planning out our future
Our family of three
Sharing my voice of worship
Hands around your home
Daddy by our side

How I long for heaven
My body back to dust
Kneeling in Your presence
Never ceasing praise

A sacred life created
Never to be born
We were happy as we waited
Now alone and forlorn
Did he feel fear as he died?
Heartbeat slowing down
In God's arms may he hide
At last truly found

I would like to thank family and friends for sharing so many wonderful Bible verses with us. And I thank God for speaking so lovingly and kindly to us through our loss. His promises are true. The most comforting verse to me has been Revelation 7: 15-17

“Therefore they are before the throne of God,
and serve him day and night in his temple;
and he who sits on the throne will shelter them with his presence.
They shall hunger no more, neither thirst anymore;
the sun shall not strike them,
nor any scorching heat.
For the Lamb in the midst of the throne will be their shepherd,
and he will guide them to springs of living water,
and God will wipe away every tear from their eyes.”